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On: July 1st, 2008 & January 23rd, 2010
At: Toronto, Canada
Dear to-be-born baby,
I haven't seen you, but I feel you inside my swollen tummy. I haven't heard your voice, but I sense your fast breathing. You are growing within me since the last 7.5 months; touched by my innermost thoughts and heartfelt emotions.
I can't wait to see you in flesh and blood, to hear you go ba-ba-ba-ba. Oh, what fun it will be to wake up and see your bright and smiling face, listen to your cries of hunger or discomfort, feed and swaddle you, give you a bath and good night tuck-ins. I am looking forward to playing with you all those gorgeous toys in the market.
As I dream about the good times, a part of me is full of questions about taking good care of you. How will I know that you are not feeling well? Would I know, all you need is a kiss and squeeze from me? Or, maybe you are hungry? Or, you do not like the new baby soap that I just brought you?
Somewhere from within me comes the answer, "You will know with time. You will be a wonderful mother." I break into a wide grin thinking, "Yes, I can do it." I wasn't born with all the knowledge in the world. I am going to fall, and learn with my mistakes. Celebrating my mistakes makes me a strong person. You taught me to appreciate every moment in life. From you I learned not to lose sleep over the endless worries of life.
When you come out of my secured womb, and begin to grow, you will soon realize that we live in an image bound society. "So what do you do?" is the most famous question asked as soon as you meet anyone. What will your mom say? "I am a stay-at-home-mom" or "I work in so-and-so company as so-and-so."
In today's times, it's a no-win situation. Either way, I have to defend my choices. If I choose to be a career mom, I will be seen as a career obsessed parent who has neglected her only child for money, and if I opt to be a stay-at-home mom, I will be looked down upon by others as someone who is incapable of taking care of both, home and work.
So is it possible to have a satisfying career and personal life? The answer is a resounding yes. I may need to revisit my expectations. Is it essential to have a picture perfect home? Is it crucial to bake a cake from the scratch?
My baby, I refuse to join in this mummy war, and choose to be responsible for my choices: A choice that I am going to make for my family's wellness, needs and desires. Whatever is my choice, my love and attention is what you will get in plentiful. A loving home filled with joy, laughter and warmth is what you will get. I promise.
Love,
Mom
On: July 1st, 2008 & January 23rd, 2010
At: Toronto, Canada
Dear to-be-born baby,
I haven't seen you, but I feel you inside my swollen tummy. I haven't heard your voice, but I sense your fast breathing. You are growing within me since the last 7.5 months; touched by my innermost thoughts and heartfelt emotions.
I can't wait to see you in flesh and blood, to hear you go ba-ba-ba-ba. Oh, what fun it will be to wake up and see your bright and smiling face, listen to your cries of hunger or discomfort, feed and swaddle you, give you a bath and good night tuck-ins. I am looking forward to playing with you all those gorgeous toys in the market.
As I dream about the good times, a part of me is full of questions about taking good care of you. How will I know that you are not feeling well? Would I know, all you need is a kiss and squeeze from me? Or, maybe you are hungry? Or, you do not like the new baby soap that I just brought you?
Somewhere from within me comes the answer, "You will know with time. You will be a wonderful mother." I break into a wide grin thinking, "Yes, I can do it." I wasn't born with all the knowledge in the world. I am going to fall, and learn with my mistakes. Celebrating my mistakes makes me a strong person. You taught me to appreciate every moment in life. From you I learned not to lose sleep over the endless worries of life.
When you come out of my secured womb, and begin to grow, you will soon realize that we live in an image bound society. "So what do you do?" is the most famous question asked as soon as you meet anyone. What will your mom say? "I am a stay-at-home-mom" or "I work in so-and-so company as so-and-so."
In today's times, it's a no-win situation. Either way, I have to defend my choices. If I choose to be a career mom, I will be seen as a career obsessed parent who has neglected her only child for money, and if I opt to be a stay-at-home mom, I will be looked down upon by others as someone who is incapable of taking care of both, home and work.
So is it possible to have a satisfying career and personal life? The answer is a resounding yes. I may need to revisit my expectations. Is it essential to have a picture perfect home? Is it crucial to bake a cake from the scratch?
My baby, I refuse to join in this mummy war, and choose to be responsible for my choices: A choice that I am going to make for my family's wellness, needs and desires. Whatever is my choice, my love and attention is what you will get in plentiful. A loving home filled with joy, laughter and warmth is what you will get. I promise.
Love,
Mom
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